5 brilliant steps to positively change your mindset!

5 brilliant steps to positively change your mindset!

When you hear people saying change your mindset it  sounds so easy right? Its not like flicking a light switch and all of a sudden you’re thinking positively and everything starts going your way. Many factors affect our lives that may sway our mindset from a positive healthy mindset to negative, these could be, but not limited to –

Our childhood upbringing

Relationship breakups


Financial problems

Mental health issues

When you are deep in despair and not quite sure how your life can be fulfilled and positive, it is then difficult to think positively. However, in order to turnaround your life from one of scarcity and despair to one of abundance and positivity, you have to change your mindset to match. This brings me to ”law of attraction”, the universal law that governs each and every human being, we probably can manifest negativity much easier than positivite energy without conscious awareness by our thoughts and emotion. What we put out there we get back, like a boomerang, we reflect exactly what we then get back.

”You get what you focus, so focus on what you want”. Changing your mindset to focus on the positives in your life creates a flow of energy that only great opportunities and synchronicity will be evident. Opportunities will start pouring in, sometimes from unexpected sources, the goals you were aiming to achieve will start happening, this is not by a wave of a magic wand. I was listening to a guy on Youtube who spoke about how he was stressing about setting up his business, because he wanted it so badly he focused on it so much yet at the same time he did not take time to rest and reflect. One time he decided he needed to take time out, walk his dog and stretch his legs so he can refocus and recharge batteries. Part of him was telling him that would be a waste of time, thankfully he chose to take that break and walk his dog. During his walk, he bumped into a friend who happened to ask him what he was doing as a job, the conversation they had there, was the missing puzzle to what he wanted to achieve. His life changed from that point, he got the lead he needed and his business went from strength to strength.

The following are the steps I’ve taken to change my mindset, it is a journey and enjoy the experience as it opens up your eyes

  • Believe in yourself – fall in love with yourself, if other people can achieve the goals they’re aiming, what’s stopping you? If you believe in yourself and have confidence, like minded people will be drawn to you. Even if you have to tell yourself, write it down or read it to yourself (affirmations), in time you will start to notice that it gets easier believing and loving yourself
  • Do not pass judgement – practice empathy,  love to everything around you – the way you treat others will be the same way you will be treated. Remember, what you put out there will come flying back to you, so imagine if you radiate positivity and love, the same will come in abundance
  • Be present – mindfulness is important, when you open your eyes, you will start to notice the opportunities around you, like minded people will start coming your way, encouraging and supporting you through your journey
  • Come from a place of abundance never scarcity, this is of utmost importance, when you open up your heart and move towards a place of less resistance, abundance can only come your way. You can only magnetize things from the  same vibrational frequency as you.
  • Meditation, stillness brings about reflection and focus, when we focus, quietening the little voice, we can search deep within and answers and solutions will become apparent.

Our thoughts and emotions carry energy so we can only receive what we reflect, its not an overnight achievement, small steps that will become a life style. Don’t wait to achieve something in order to be happy, be happy and enjoy the journey whilst seeking and fulfilling your purpose.

Until next time……………………

Daily steps to conscious awakening

Daily steps to conscious awakening

Being human is a mix of conscious and unconscious behaviors that are nurtured and are part of nature. What if I told you that we are far greater than what you have told you are capable of. As a society we have been programmed with sets of rules that we have been told to abide by. Rules and laws created by the government, macro and micro levels, as we grow our brains become limited in what we can and can’t do and by so doing we shut off. We have forgotten to be joyous of the little things, we can no longer see the beauty of nature, the tweeting of birds the universe sending us signs and guidance. We are now blinkered to the point where we are operating on auto pilot. I was watching Dr Joe Dispenza’s video  and he explained this disassociation really well. He states that our bodies become so good at performing daily routines that it becomes a habit. We get to the point of automatically responding to situations without engaging the brain. We become immune to the signs from ” source/universe” the synchronicity, serendipity and messages we can receive from the universe have become unnoticed.

Personally I am living daily reminding myself how best to become the best version of myself, not as an act but as a way of life. It’s not easy because we are faced with challenges daily. What I’ve discovered is not that we become immune to life’s challenges, it is how we face and deal with the challenges that will make a difference to our well being. The heart and the brain work hand in hand, you cannot have awakening without the other, they have to sync and become symbiotic in order to elevate oneself. There are a few helpful tips that you can work towards awakening your soul

  • Gratitude is an integral
  • open your heart and soul, having empathy without any sense of judgement toward anyone or anything. you will notice that you will face some challenges, it’s not an easy path however it is exciting
  • you will become averse to negativity, while you are soul cleansing you are detoxing your surroundings. The universe will probably help you with that, those people will probably just disappear from your life!
  • you become hungry for knowledge, to better yourself as you become aware that you are here on earth to serve a purpose. You begin to find your path, if you haven’t already done so!
  • self love, when you love yourself and are content with who you are, you are open to love and respect those around you
  • practice patience whatever situation befalls you, dealing with it consciously with awareness. When you practice patience issues or challenges will become bearable and will only become a minor hurdle.

Conscious awakening is a way of life, integrate these steps into your daily life and your life will become fulfilled. Serendipity, synchronicity and miracles will become more pronounced in your life. I am living day to day trying to incorporate these steps in my life, at times it is a challenge and I am consciously reviewing my actions before I can react. It is baby steps and an ongoing process hoping to become ”a way of life”.

How do you raise your consciousness? What steps do you take daily to live a fulfilling and abundant life?

Until next time………………………….

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Change your mindset and discover your purpose!

Change your mindset and discover your purpose!

”Allow your passion to become your purpose and it will one day become a profession”

How many of us have a hobby that they enjoy and keep it as ”just a hobby”. Many a times I have faced a lot of mental blocks, more my own doing than anyone criticizing me. Personally I have suffered with confidence issues arising from childhood when I constantly was berated not to speak up, told that I would amount to not much with my scatterbrain (I do have that quality unfortunately). Growing up in an African family household you were taught to accept things as they came and told to respect the elders and never to question or reply as that was deemed back chatting. I grew up being very safe, afraid to take chances/risks or thinking outside the box.

Fast forward 20 years or so that lack of confidence seeped into my adult life, as much as I was great at my job, relationships be they friendships or romantic ones I was never the one who questioned or spoke up when I was hurting. I accepted matters as they were presented. This was my downfall when I came to separation with a long term partner. I had to accept fault to the breakdown of the relationship because I was never outspoken during the relationship I think I might have been what a lot of people would term ”doormat”. I now believe, if there are issues in any type of relationship, one must voice them and this does not mean harshly or rudely, just voice your feelings and communicate. I am still a work in progress finding my feet and working towards ”self belief”. I am a great adviser however not great when it comes to following my advice.

The past few months I have taken bolder steps to work towards believing that ” I am valuable” and that ”I can do whatever I set my heart on”. I have set up a personal challenge to start working on my passion of holistic living and well being and sharing what  I read/research about. I love the idea of being mindful and aligning my heart soul and spirit. One of my exciting passions is exploring endless possibilities of using natural products on my skin and my hair. If you’re interested take a look at one of my blogs here. Everyday is a learning curve for me and I embrace the people and opportunities coming my way. I am working toward a life where I serve people by doing something I absolutely love and I am slowly discovering we, as human beings, are curious creatures and we all love to share and find information, this is an undying trend. There is so much to discover and share on this planet. What makes us that bit special as human race is we are all different, if we accept and embrace that difference, we learn so much from each other. Ask yourself, what tickles your fancy, what is it you do that brings a smile to your face and makes those neurons dance with joy? I believe, if you can answer that, then my dear friend you have found your passion. Explore your passion and discover what you can do with it to serve the world.

”I’ve no special talent, just passionately curious”…………Albert Einstein.


Until next time………………………………..

3 Ways of enhancing your quality time without gadgets!!!

3 Ways of enhancing your quality time without gadgets!!!

Most of us reading this know the importance of managing time when you are a parent. However it is not as easy as it sounds. There are so many factors that we face whilst at the same time ensuring you have ample quality time with the family.

The guilt I have faced when conversing with my two children whilst cooking dinner, making a mental note of what to pack in their lunchboxes and then trying to remember the conversation I had to then find out, you were in ”autopilot mode” and you didn’t actually hear what they were saying. We miss out on finding out what our children have been doing at school and their day to day antics due to digital noise.

We are all too consumed by technology, so much that it has taken us away from communicating face to face. Access to the outside world is at our fingertips and we have a voyeuristic behaviors, checking what is happening to someone on social media instead of taking time to find out how the person next to you is feeling. I am guilty of this and have had to exercise a few rules in order to spend some quality time with the children. I’m sure you can follow these and amend them accordingly if you don’t have children as the main action is to switch off from technology!

  • Switching off phones from 7pm till bedtime. When the phone/iPad/laptop is switched off, there is not temptation to watch that cute cat dancing or the 3 second clip of a hilarious moment captured by someone on vine.
  • Silent or interactive reading – the whole family sits down to read a book individually or together. This serves two purposes, firstly it encourages habitual reading and spending time together. Expands the mind and encourages imagination which in turn leads to creativity.
  • Wednesday board session – every Wednesday we try and play a board game before bedtime. I do get the competitive bug and it is half the fun, it is interactive, fun and great way communicating and staving the need to reach for a gadget.

I’ve tried the above exercises in the last 3 weeks so far some have worked, the reading definitely worked. Board sessions haven’t worked so far due to chaperoning kids to some activities in the evening. What do you do to cut off from the buzzing outside world? Are you facing these challenges that we cannot escape the voyeurism fed by human curiosity instinct? Do you have the ability to escape the digital noise? How do you silence the noise and find time to reflect and rest? I will find more activities to add to my list as I’m sure there are plenty that work for other people. Until next time…


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