It’s been a few weeks since my last post and what a few weeks it’s been! The furore of Christmas celebrations, an abundance of food and drinks, tying up loose ends at work before the festivities, quality time with family and friends with the excitement of sharing and giving, last minute gift buying for the cousin or aunt who you’ve missed out. All the hive of activity
slowly we head toward the countdown till the year is concluded. It is a reflective time as we begin to prepare ourselves for the new year, it is a special moment to many of us as we always look back and contemplate on the year we are leaving and gain an understanding of what we would like to carry over in the new year and what we would like to improve on. A lot of us make resolutions each new year, what have you set out for the coming years, if so, what do you determine on achieving? Did you achieve the resolutions you set out last year, if so, how did you maintain the consistency and maintain the momentum? This post speaks on how to view resolutions as daily goals/resolutions throughout the year.
Personally the last few years I have come to set resolutions as normal goals depending on when I want to achieve them. I feel that you can set goals that you can reflect every few months. Looking at what I started in the last year and continuing with those goals, taking time to reflect and analyse which direction I’m heading. I’ve learnt that goals can be set at any time during the course of the year and not necessarily setting new goals in the new year, it might just be about continuing with what you have started and to focus on your goals with determination and perseverance. It is about jumping at opportunities that come your way and experiencing life every which way the path takes you. When setting your goals write them down however do not plan how you will execute them because you will be surprised how the universe seems to have its own plans for you. Learning that when you have a plan in your head, it might not go the way you planned however it may or may not reach is important in the recovery and acceptance because one day you will look back and realise your straightforward planning had some convoluted detours which are sometimes lessons in themselves.
Never put pressure on yourself, the pressure only adds to unwanted stress. Mornings are a great time to check where you are with your goals and achievements, taking that little step for that day toward what you are aiming puts less pressure. There are times when we take a step back due to different issues, don’t let that put you off, keep trudging and keep persevering. A lot of times we set goals that are trending or ones that we think we should achieve, the only way you can embark on setting and achieving a goal is being honest with yourself and not follow the herd. View your ”resolutions” as bite chunk goals rather than ostentatious ones that you will dump on the wayside once the January resolution facade is gone. Goals do not have to be made only in January, they can and should be made throughout the year. When you achieve them during the year, go ahead and set some more!
I’ve often found that the spring season is symbolic to me, the season of new growth and birth I often find myself pondering and reflecting on where I’m going with my life, whether I am growing as a soul what is stopping from living a fulfilled life.
Toward the end of last year I came to the realisation that I cannot force matters, all I need to do is live life in truth and surrender all control to the universe, it is the mastermind, I drive my vehicle, it directs it and when I drive over bumps, I am learning to recover from the stall and continue the journey, that is not to say it is easy, oh no it isn’t. It is learning to recover from the bumps and crashes with a positive mindset
My daily goals
As I mentioned right at the beginning of the post I am reviewing my resolutions daily and below are the bite-size chunk goals that I try and integrate in my day to day life. These are resolutions I knew I needed to live by as I lacked in the qualities, and in the last few years through learning about consciousness and the energy surrounding everything on this planet, I realised that our bodies are a conduit of energy, we are part of that electromagnetic energy and tune to different frequencies depending on our mindset. The power of energy whether positive or negative depicts the outcome of the reality and the vibration frequency we resonate, so living a positive life will raise vibrations resulting in a fulfilled way of life
Patience with everyone around me
To continue discovering my passion and calling, the reason why I am here on this beautiful earth
Taking daily action as I tend to procrastinate on the things I know I need to do to live a fulfilled life
Setting a good example to myself and to my children, be it in kindness, love, patience
Reaching my potential through determination and ensuring I am taking the steps toward that I want to achieve
To become rich and abundant in spirit, in my personal life, my relationship with my children and others around me
Connecting and aligning with people who support and share my growth, people that I can learn from
To continue growing and develop continuously and to live fearlessly
These are my goals I am integrating into my life so that they become habitual and become a part of my daily life and continue trying to live an authentic true version of myself.
What are your resolutions and what are you trying to achieve by setting them. I do hope you have a fulfilled life in 2019 and beyond and continue to seek the truth and the light.
Why is it easier for others to do or be what they want? Why are some of us crippled so much that they are stood still as if they’re in the middle of the a vast lake and the only place they’re standing is the safe haven. Casting our net wider will only lead to danger, or so our mind teaches us to believe.
What we fear of doing most is usually what we most need to do
Ralph Waldo Emerson
This quote resonates with me so much, as I feel that I go through waves of feeling great, confident, focused to feeling dejected, unsure of myself and a procrastinate. Do you have that feeling that you know you are meant for something far greater yet there is this deep feeling of fear of what could be? Even when you know that the unknown would be good for you? So why does it cripple some and not others?
So what is fear? Is it an acquired emotion or programmed in our psyche before we are even here on this earth? What have we stopped ourselves from achieving because of fear? This post will look at how micro and macro factors feed into our psyche from our early years and how we can reprogramme our minds to snap out of this and become who we want in this life without boundaries.
When we look at the micro setting, we think of our families, those close to us. As children, we look up to our parents as the drivers of our lives as they are the guardians and protectors. What they fear could be projected onto us sub-consciously and we pick up on that without knowing that we are. Those fears become ingrained and are practised, and what is practised becomes a habit and a habit eventually becomes a belief. When we believe something it becomes real to us. The spoken word is a powerful weapon in any sense it is used, so when there are belittling words that are spoken to an individual there is a knock on confidence and can have ramifications on self-belief and a lack of self-confidence it brings with it ”FEAR”.
In a macro setting, we are led to live like sheep, society feeding us expectations of what ”we” should be doing and what we should achieve at different stages of our lives. So we are railroaded into believing that ”go to school’‘, achieve the grades to go to university, get a job and life should be good. University is not everyone’s path, however, we are led to think that just get a job that pays the bills and does not question the status quo. Consequently, some live an unfulfilled life as the expectation has been met but it does not bring satisfaction. The thought of quitting your job and focussing on a business venture leaves some people dumbfounded at the very thought, the people that go ahead and take that leap have faith that what they aim to achieve will be fulfilled, regardless of the downfalls they keep forging through.
Fear of failure is a common thread in society, especially when you think of jumping into a new venture and cannot quite see the end result. The people that seem to make it in what they do are those that feel the fear but do it anyway. Sounds easy right? It is only easy if you are able to overcome that emotion that cripples us and creates a downward spiral of self-doubt. I have come to realise that those that are confident and have faith in what they aim to achieve are the ones that get far and achieve their goals.
Fear of stepping outside the box, afraid of breaking the status quo is quite difficult. A lot of instances people have an idea in their head, however, executing it is halted due to the negative thoughts that hamper fruiting of that idea. So surely if some can do it, that means we can all achieve our goals, right? Absolutely! it is never too late to turn round your life and live your purpose.
How to overcome fear
”Birds of the feather flock together”- simple yet powerful. What I mean by this quote, is, leverage knowledge from those that are doing what you love doing. We live in the digital world and can connect with people all over the world. You will find inspiration and guidance from people and their stories may actually surprise you and soon may realise you resonate with them on so many levels.
Retrain your mind, shifting it from I can’t to I can. This could be achieved in several ways. It is not an overnight transformation, it is an exercise to practice when incorporated in your daily routine becomes a habit and a habit becomes a belief. There are ups and downs in life but soldier on and tell yourself you can do it, a few tips you can undertake to start thinking differently, not exhaustive but can get you started.
Right down what you aim to achieve.
Take steps towards your goal, find out the tools you need to start your journey.
Believe in yourself and affirm that to yourself every minute of the day.
Self awareness/mindfulness is key, we have opportunities all around us however at times we do not realise. When you put your mind to what you want to do, the opportunities are orchestrated your way, it is for your taking, only if you notice.
Are you ready to realise the great potential you have to plunge into the unknown and go for it? A few days ago I saw this quote and it echoed my thoughts exactly, I am one of those few people that seem to take a step forward and other days I take a few steps back. Sometimes I fear my purpose and procrastination sets in and I resort to my comfy status quo, so I am on that journey too of training my mind, pinching myself out of that daze and working toward living a fulfilled life
What we fear of doing most is usually what we most need to do
Ralph Waldo Emerson
As I mentioned before, it is an ongoing journey and not a miraculous overnight transformation. I hope you enjoyed this post and have taken a lesson or two, or if you have any suggestions, please feel free to comment.
Interesting synchronicity when I finished writing this post, I was on youtube and came across this wonderful video on dealing with fear, it delves into this issue so beautifully and I think you will learn a thing or two!
Salad packed with vitamins and minerals and a skin cleanser!
Who says salads have to be boring and a chore/obligation to eat? Nope, veer away from that mindset because the sky is the limit now with technology enabling us to access recipes from around the world, we are our own limitation. The reason for this post stems from my obsession with a salad that I usually purchase when I’m out and about with work, this salad is so tasty, nutritious, packed full of gorgeous nutrients. As much as this salad is consumed during travels, I realized that I could actually make it and give it my own spin without altering it too much. Another good reason was facing up to healthy eating to improve my skin because I have suffered from acne the last 4 years I had to tackle this monster head on by eating healthily and drinking lots of water
I am not a vegan nor vegetarian but this salad is so delicious I eat it just like that as I feel adding meat will spoil it, that’s not to say you can’t add some meat to accompany it, it’s my personal choice. In this section of the post I will list the ingredients and the benefits of each of them as I think it’s imperative to get an understanding of what is a balanced healthy diet, and it’s also exciting to have an informed choice of the benefits of eating something healthy and what it will do for your body.
Caveat – I am not a chef so most of my ingredients will not be listed with exact measurements, let’s just call it rustic measurements/ measuring with the eye. You get the gist of how much you want and we all do it sometimes……
Arsenal of ingredients to pack a punch!
A handful of raw baby spinach (enough for yourself if you’re just making a single serving). Spinach is rich in iron, vitamins, potassium, magnesium, phosphorus, fibre, protein and choline. These nutrients are beneficial in boosting your blood mineral content look at all these mineral-rich nutrients, it is great for repairing cells, and is low in calories, the benefits of the green leaf is endless, it’s safe to say it is an all-rounder for you. Spinach is brilliant as it is tasty whether cooked, raw in salads or added in smoothies.
Two tablespoons of almonds – I prefer to lightly toast mine in a pan, the smell is intoxicatingly beautiful however if you like just toss them in the salad raw. I was always a fan of peanuts and never really bothered with any other nut I can safely say I’ve been converted! Almonds are a rich source of protein, fibre, magnesium and vitamin E and healthy fats, manganese, copper, riboflavin and phosphorus and they are also deemed as an oxidant. These nutrients are great in combating signs of ageing by repairing cells and reducing oxidative damage, some research data has revealed that the levels of vitamin E aids in lowering cholesterol and blood pressure, especially when the nuts are still encased in their brown skin!
Two tablespoons grated carrot – this is my own spin, the orange adds a vibrancy to the salad and carrots are packed full of vitamins, fibre, minerals, beta-carotene due to its colour and is also a great antioxidant, you can just imagine the skin benefits of carrots so far already with only these ingredients you’re way on your way to a healthier body and a healthier skin (if you suffer from acne as I do).
Raw green beans (just a few) – these crunchy green tasty beans add a textural dimension on top of providing an array of healthy nutritional goodness to complement the other ingredients. Green beans can be blanched if you wish or added in the salad raw, they are low calorie, vitamin enriched and mineral packed super veg! They are high in Vitamin C great for boosting the immune system, fibre content is imperative for great colon activity thus preventing constipation!
A few florets of broccoli (blanched for approx 3 minutes), they should still have the lovely crunch yet soft enough to eat. Broccoli is packed with vitamins, fibre, minerals like phosphorus, manganese, potassium, and copper. The vitamin C content has a high content of antioxidants which fight the free radicals.
Chia seeds are always a welcome addition to the salad, the great thing about these seeds is you can add them to anything e.g salads, yoghurts, smoothies. Chia seeds are packed full of fibre, omega 3 fatty acids even though they are of low calorific content. They also are high in protein and loaded with anti oxidants!
A healthy salad commands a healthy dressing!
With such an abundance of nutritional ingredients, a lovely ginger and soy dressing will compliment this gorgeous salad. The marriage of soy, fresh ginger and olive oil will bring joy to your eating experience. Now to the recipe! If you make a batch of this dressing, you can keep it in the fridge for up to 3 days. This dressing you will have to adjust ingredients to suit your taste so below is a guide
Two tablespoons extra virgin oil
One tablespoon light soy sauce
One teaspoon freshly grated ginger
One tablespoon honey (adjust all ingredients to your taste)
Whisk all ingredients until you get a lovely golden brown colour
Drizzle the gorgeous dressing on the salad and hey presto ENJOY!!!
Hi there, nice to join me on my journey of self-development and health and well being. I love blogging about our fascinating world and how we are connected, how changing our mindset can benefit us in living a fulfilled and abundant life. Hope you enjoy my posts, that you can resonate with some if not all the content.