Does the law of attraction work?

Does the law of attraction work?

”Be careful what you wish for”, the famous saying we all blurt out in our day to day conversations. This saying is so powerful as I associate it with the ”law of attraction”, attracting like for like. What we put out there is what we receive, do you believe in that law, that we are part of the universal matrix of energy and frequencies? The energy that we expend out there we get the same back. We are governed by laws of the universe we live in, what others may term as ”karma”. People often say they find the things they don’t like manifest in their reality quicker than what they truly love. That I find is how our mindset is designed, we are creatures of fear, and let’s remember, fear is an emotion as much as happiness and sadness are. We fear a lot about lack of money, no one loving us, or having a bad day. What if we program our minds to think positively? Do you think then we will attract what we love? We have to be really careful about what we say because when we instill emotion in the things we say those that we say we then attract. The flip side to this is how difficult it is to be positive when you are not in the head space or when your surroundings are not supporting the emotion.

A few years ago i purchased the renowned ”The Secret” book to try and understand how the law of attraction works and to also aid me in shifting my mindset. I began to understand that we can create our own reality and our own heaven. I am from a Christian background and growing up I was taught that when we die we either go to heaven (if we’re good) or we go to hell! I lived my life according to that rule, until I went through some life experiences that led me to searching for ”my truth”. I came to realize that I am my own creator of the reality I want to live in, I can create and enjoy heaven, while I’m still on this earth. To live life to the fullest and live a life of peace, abundance and positivity all governed by the greatest law of all, ”Love”. By living your life to the fullest with love and positivity, everything around you will support a beautiful reality. I have not reached that ultimate state of living, I am a work in progress and living day to day reminding myself that I am a co creator of my reality. What are the steps we need to take in order to lead a fulfilling reality?

Firstly It starts with us, our inner being, the soul within us. Being of a mind that is free from judging, free from negative influences, that’s not to say we are free from life struggles. It is important to recognize how we deal with the hiccups that are thrown our way. I remember how I used to struggle with slow drivers in front of me, that used to annoy me so much I’d be cursing in my car, winding myself up and getting agitated, guess what? The more I got annoyed the more I had slow driver occurrences.After reading and getting to understanding the law of attraction I realized I was actually attracting more of this so I decided to switch my mindset and accepting of the slow drivers, sometimes acting as if I wasn’t noticing them, I slowly started noticing It wasn’t happening as much as it used to before. I became more patient and accepting that the driver in front of me, had as much right to be in that place at that given time.

Believing in your self worth,valuing your being and loving yourself are key to finding your higher self and attracting the things you desire. This is no magic, it is something each and everyone of us is entitled to. Spread your wings and discover your potential and most of all, love yourself more than you’ve ever loved!


Change your mindset and discover your purpose!

Change your mindset and discover your purpose!

”Allow your passion to become your purpose and it will one day become a profession”

How many of us have a hobby that they enjoy and keep it as ”just a hobby”. Many a times I have faced a lot of mental blocks, more my own doing than anyone criticizing me. Personally I have suffered with confidence issues arising from childhood when I constantly was berated not to speak up, told that I would amount to not much with my scatterbrain (I do have that quality unfortunately). Growing up in an African family household you were taught to accept things as they came and told to respect the elders and never to question or reply as that was deemed back chatting. I grew up being very safe, afraid to take chances/risks or thinking outside the box.

Fast forward 20 years or so that lack of confidence seeped into my adult life, as much as I was great at my job, relationships be they friendships or romantic ones I was never the one who questioned or spoke up when I was hurting. I accepted matters as they were presented. This was my downfall when I came to separation with a long term partner. I had to accept fault to the breakdown of the relationship because I was never outspoken during the relationship I think I might have been what a lot of people would term ”doormat”. I now believe, if there are issues in any type of relationship, one must voice them and this does not mean harshly or rudely, just voice your feelings and communicate. I am still a work in progress finding my feet and working towards ”self belief”. I am a great adviser however not great when it comes to following my advice.

The past few months I have taken bolder steps to work towards believing that ” I am valuable” and that ”I can do whatever I set my heart on”. I have set up a personal challenge to start working on my passion of holistic living and well being and sharing what  I read/research about. I love the idea of being mindful and aligning my heart soul and spirit. One of my exciting passions is exploring endless possibilities of using natural products on my skin and my hair. If you’re interested take a look at one of my blogs here. Everyday is a learning curve for me and I embrace the people and opportunities coming my way. I am working toward a life where I serve people by doing something I absolutely love and I am slowly discovering we, as human beings, are curious creatures and we all love to share and find information, this is an undying trend. There is so much to discover and share on this planet. What makes us that bit special as human race is we are all different, if we accept and embrace that difference, we learn so much from each other. Ask yourself, what tickles your fancy, what is it you do that brings a smile to your face and makes those neurons dance with joy? I believe, if you can answer that, then my dear friend you have found your passion. Explore your passion and discover what you can do with it to serve the world.

”I’ve no special talent, just passionately curious”…………Albert Einstein.


Until next time………………………………..

Home made rose water  primer and setting lotion for long lasting make up

Home made rose water primer and setting lotion for long lasting make up

It’s taken me a long time to find the best product to use as a primer for my oily prone skin. Having tried some of the most expensive primers and setting sprays, historically used Nyx, Smashbox, Urban decay and Skindinavia all of these are gorgeous products however they didn’t work for me. Having looked at some videos on YouTube I was sold on the fact that It worked for the reviewers unfortunately they didn’t work for me. Not sure whether  I was not applying the products well I guess I still had a long way to go. I decided to go back to basics and take a long good look at myself and  figure out what I need to do to improve my skin and improve the texture as I was riddled with stress induced acne. It was a challenge to learn to hydrate, I was never a fan of water so my skin was tired, over producing sebum and lacking a natural sheen.

To aid my skin towards health i did the following: –  

  • Drinking water was and is still a daily task I do daily, First, I have to ensure I drink at least 1.5 – 2 litres a day, I’m only starting and I’m sure there are some people out there who will drink more than I  do daily. Drinking water hydrates from inside and will flush out toxins, plumps skin, you will also have clearer glowing skin.
  • Secondly, I had to make sure I was eating healthily and a great way to maximize my veg and fruit intake was making smoothies. I’ve enjoyed creating my smoothies using frozen fruit pieces, ginger, coriander and water, alternatively making a fruit salad topped with natural yogurt.

For the primer I used the following ingredients: –

  • Rose water – It is packed with anti inflammatory properties great for skin that breaks out, pore minimiser, protect the skin from free radicals the list is endless for more information take a look at this brilliant blog post about rose water.
  • 3-4 drops rosemary essential oil – without being dazzled by the beautiful smell, rosemary is my go to oil if I want to smell good (more of making your home made essential oil perfume in another post) It has antiseptic, anti bacterial and anti inflammatory properties. Great for problem skin!
  • mix these two together and you’re good to go.

So imagine having a purposeful primer/spritz that will work in the deep skin layers while you’re going about your normal day to day. I use this product as a toner, spritz it before applying my makeup and during the day as needed and it has replaced the expensive brands that I have used before. I have to confess, I am starting to think of the idea of making my own rose water as seen in this post by Julian Harris.

Let me know how you get on with making your own facial spritz, Until next time…………………………..


Practicing self love, your path to spiritual peace

Practicing self love, your path to spiritual peace

How many times do we criticize ourselves when life does not go our way, when we lose our jobs, when a relationship fails? We are our own worst bully. Sometimes life takes a detour from the path we are hoping to lead and we find ourselves desolate, alone and in a dark place. Growing spiritually, is a step by step journey of self awareness, loving ourselves, loving those around us and removing judgement and negativity that clouds our minds. When we lose something, we are quick to blame ourselves due to the fact that we simply think whatever happened must have been due to our inadequacies.

When we get to a place of acceptance and self love we realize the experiences, hardships and tests are just soul strengtheners, life lessons that builds resilience. You are given the chance to reflect and deduce from the issue what you can learn from the experience. It teaches you to rise like a phoenix, to accept that ”the Universe” or the Divine, call it what you believe in, dishes out trials and tribulations you can handle.

When you feeling down and desolate there are a few tips you can practice in your everyday life to build your soul and give your spirit the love it deserves. Speak to your soul

  • Stand in front of the mirror, look yourself in the eye and say out loud

”I love you”

” I believe in you”

” I trust you”

It might not be as easy as writing it down as I have in this post, trust me, looking at yourself in the mirror is tough when you don’t feel you’re adequate to be loved more so loving yourself. If you’re finding it awkward and strange start by just looking at yourself in the mirror for a minute or two, crack a smile if you can. Try this for a few days and when you start feeling confident repeat the mantra ”I love you”, ”I believe in you”, ”I am beautiful”. Repeat this daily and gradually you will notice a change. Self loving is difficult when your mindset is telling you otherwise, rise above that little niggling voice and believe in your mantra. When you start self loving, your whole being prepares you to overcome the challenges we face in our lives. We learn to realize that a challenge is only a hurdle that we can overcome……….

”Work on being in love with the person in the mirror who has been through so much but is still standing”. – Unknown

Let me know how you get on and thank you for taking the time to read this, until next time………………………

Multhani mitti benefits for hair

Multhani mitti benefits for hair

Taking care of natural afro hair requires a regimen consisting of eating healthy, drinking plenty of water and hydrating your curly mane. Whilst my hair is in a protective style during the cold winter months, I still ensure I continue to moisturize and condition my hair and I have found the multani mitti clay as the best clarifying clay that conditions and cleanses my hair. So let’s delve into finding out what this natural ingredient is.

I first discovered this clay during my ”slippery slope” internet searches when I was searching for a natural conditioning product that can condition my hair without containing parabens and sulphates. I became interested in it as it is one of the aryuvedic products hailing from India. ”Aryuveda” is a holistic maintenance of the mind and body with the use of ”mother earths” natural abundance. This product was a great find for me as I realized its uses would be good for my problem skin and for my hair. It has been used for many centuries in India and here are the benefits of this clay

Multani mitti contains silica, calcium, iron and magnesium these minerals are essential for our body, you can imagine the great benefits these will have on your skin, I will write a post on the skin mask, however today we will focus on the hair mask.  I made the  hair mask using the following ingredients. Silica is essential for the hair structure and texture (hence the conditioning properties), calcium is vital for fuller, thicker hair. With iron  promoting hair growth and magnesium helping with absorption of all these wonderful minerals.


  • 4 tbsp  of multani mitti
  • 1 tsp amino acids
  • 2 tbsp of olive oil
  • Coconut milk – enough to mix until you a get a smooth slightly thick paste

Applying the paste

  • Mix all the ingredients until you have a smooth paste, ensure it is not runny as you will end up with the mixture running down your neck!
  • Apply to freshly cleansed hair, (I use castille soap to wash my hair). Others  use a squeeze bottle, depending how thick your mixture is, but I muck straight in there with my fingers as I then finger comb my hair during application.
  • Wear a shower cap, or cling film your head, wrap cling film round until all your hair is under the wrap. I found this the best method as it traps the heat. Leave it for a minimum of 30 mins, I left mine for about 3 hours (why not!!!!)
  • Rinse with luke warm water and ensure all the mixture is washed out of your hair
  • Style as desired, after rinsing, my hair felt so soft and my curl pattern was defined.

I try my best to have this treatment fortnightly, give this a try and I look forward to your comments!

Until next time………………………..



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