Patience is a form of wisdom. It demonstrates that we understand and accept the fact that sometimes things must unfold in their own time.
The old me – huffing, panting, loud exhaling noises and temper simmering to boiling point. This was a typical reaction if things never went quite as planned, it would spoil my whole day and would bend anyone’s ear so they would know how upset I was and how unfair this whole situation is. Does this sound familiar? Ok, maybe not the reaction but when things don’t go according to YOUR plan, what is your reaction and how do you rearrange your day to benefit you rather than tip you over the edge? As I wrote at the start, this is the old me, why I say that is, I’m blogging about this situation whilst I’m facing the whole ”day didn’t go quite as planned” for the first time I’m not having a soliloquy in my head about the horrid situation instead I’m utilising the time to suit me. This is a short post, sometimes we get lost in emotions that wind us up so much that our whole day is affected. So how then do we turn this around into something positive?
My current job involves a lot of travelling and as such requires careful planning of journeys as I take into account the childcare during my brief absence. I am lucky to be in a harmonious flexible co-parenting relationship and blessed to have my parents literally around the corner from me however I still need to ensure I am running a tight ship. This week meant I have travelled 3 days and of those 3 days 1 was uneventful, the other two………… let’s just say, I would have been more useful working from home as we all know, time wasted, is time you will never get back so I decided to focus my emotions on something constructive! writing this Blog, this served 2 purposes
Utilising free time efficiently
Diverting negative thoughts from festering (to be honest two trips that were potentially not going to yield much would have made me really angry.
I realised this week that Its ok to feel an emotion, more importantly, it is the way you react to that emotion that is key. I was a bit annoyed however at the same time I realised that I could do some blogging because if I got annoyed and expended energy towards the situation, it wouldn’t serve any purpose. I simply surrendered into the situation and hoped that I would at least utilise the time I have and that the whole journey wasn’t fruitless. I did blog a paragraph before being ushered to where I needed to be to fulfil the purpose of my journey on that day. What I am saying really is, embrace the good and the bad in equal measures as the Universe has a way of designing our paths at times in a convoluted way such that we get muddled and confused only to then look back and realise the Universe was protecting us or setting us for greater things. I’m not sure if people will view it the way I do, I’m glad I am calm and at peace because my stress levels are down and I do not have the all-consuming bitterness that comes from annoyance. It is not about ignoring the negative energy/emotions, it is all about facing them, and dealing with them in a more calmer.
How have you dealt with challenging situations? I would love to hear and learn from you.
Why is it easier for others to do or be what they want? Why are some of us crippled so much that they are stood still as if they’re in the middle of the a vast lake and the only place they’re standing is the safe haven. Casting our net wider will only lead to danger, or so our mind teaches us to believe.
What we fear of doing most is usually what we most need to do
Ralph Waldo Emerson
This quote resonates with me so much, as I feel that I go through waves of feeling great, confident, focused to feeling dejected, unsure of myself and a procrastinate. Do you have that feeling that you know you are meant for something far greater yet there is this deep feeling of fear of what could be? Even when you know that the unknown would be good for you? So why does it cripple some and not others?
So what is fear? Is it an acquired emotion or programmed in our psyche before we are even here on this earth? What have we stopped ourselves from achieving because of fear? This post will look at how micro and macro factors feed into our psyche from our early years and how we can reprogramme our minds to snap out of this and become who we want in this life without boundaries.
When we look at the micro setting, we think of our families, those close to us. As children, we look up to our parents as the drivers of our lives as they are the guardians and protectors. What they fear could be projected onto us sub-consciously and we pick up on that without knowing that we are. Those fears become ingrained and are practised, and what is practised becomes a habit and a habit eventually becomes a belief. When we believe something it becomes real to us. The spoken word is a powerful weapon in any sense it is used, so when there are belittling words that are spoken to an individual there is a knock on confidence and can have ramifications on self-belief and a lack of self-confidence it brings with it ”FEAR”.
In a macro setting, we are led to live like sheep, society feeding us expectations of what ”we” should be doing and what we should achieve at different stages of our lives. So we are railroaded into believing that ”go to school’‘, achieve the grades to go to university, get a job and life should be good. University is not everyone’s path, however, we are led to think that just get a job that pays the bills and does not question the status quo. Consequently, some live an unfulfilled life as the expectation has been met but it does not bring satisfaction. The thought of quitting your job and focussing on a business venture leaves some people dumbfounded at the very thought, the people that go ahead and take that leap have faith that what they aim to achieve will be fulfilled, regardless of the downfalls they keep forging through.
Fear of failure is a common thread in society, especially when you think of jumping into a new venture and cannot quite see the end result. The people that seem to make it in what they do are those that feel the fear but do it anyway. Sounds easy right? It is only easy if you are able to overcome that emotion that cripples us and creates a downward spiral of self-doubt. I have come to realise that those that are confident and have faith in what they aim to achieve are the ones that get far and achieve their goals.
Fear of stepping outside the box, afraid of breaking the status quo is quite difficult. A lot of instances people have an idea in their head, however, executing it is halted due to the negative thoughts that hamper fruiting of that idea. So surely if some can do it, that means we can all achieve our goals, right? Absolutely! it is never too late to turn round your life and live your purpose.
How to overcome fear
”Birds of the feather flock together”- simple yet powerful. What I mean by this quote, is, leverage knowledge from those that are doing what you love doing. We live in the digital world and can connect with people all over the world. You will find inspiration and guidance from people and their stories may actually surprise you and soon may realise you resonate with them on so many levels.
Retrain your mind, shifting it from I can’t to I can. This could be achieved in several ways. It is not an overnight transformation, it is an exercise to practice when incorporated in your daily routine becomes a habit and a habit becomes a belief. There are ups and downs in life but soldier on and tell yourself you can do it, a few tips you can undertake to start thinking differently, not exhaustive but can get you started.
Right down what you aim to achieve.
Take steps towards your goal, find out the tools you need to start your journey.
Believe in yourself and affirm that to yourself every minute of the day.
Self awareness/mindfulness is key, we have opportunities all around us however at times we do not realise. When you put your mind to what you want to do, the opportunities are orchestrated your way, it is for your taking, only if you notice.
Are you ready to realise the great potential you have to plunge into the unknown and go for it? A few days ago I saw this quote and it echoed my thoughts exactly, I am one of those few people that seem to take a step forward and other days I take a few steps back. Sometimes I fear my purpose and procrastination sets in and I resort to my comfy status quo, so I am on that journey too of training my mind, pinching myself out of that daze and working toward living a fulfilled life
What we fear of doing most is usually what we most need to do
Ralph Waldo Emerson
As I mentioned before, it is an ongoing journey and not a miraculous overnight transformation. I hope you enjoyed this post and have taken a lesson or two, or if you have any suggestions, please feel free to comment.
Interesting synchronicity when I finished writing this post, I was on youtube and came across this wonderful video on dealing with fear, it delves into this issue so beautifully and I think you will learn a thing or two!
Until next time……………
Hi there, nice to join me on my journey of self-development and health and well being. I love blogging about our fascinating world and how we are connected, how changing our mindset can benefit us in living a fulfilled and abundant life. Hope you enjoy my posts, that you can resonate with some if not all the content.