Practicing self love, your path to spiritual peace

Practicing self love, your path to spiritual peace

How many times do we criticize ourselves when life does not go our way, when we lose our jobs, when a relationship fails? We are our own worst bully. Sometimes life takes a detour from the path we are hoping to lead and we find ourselves desolate, alone and in a dark place. Growing spiritually, is a step by step journey of self awareness, loving ourselves, loving those around us and removing judgement and negativity that clouds our minds. When we lose something, we are quick to blame ourselves due to the fact that we simply think whatever happened must have been due to our inadequacies.

When we get to a place of acceptance and self love we realize the experiences, hardships and tests are just soul strengtheners, life lessons that builds resilience. You are given the chance to reflect and deduce from the issue what you can learn from the experience. It teaches you to rise like a phoenix, to accept that ”the Universe” or the Divine, call it what you believe in, dishes out trials and tribulations you can handle.

When you feeling down and desolate there are a few tips you can practice in your everyday life to build your soul and give your spirit the love it deserves. Speak to your soul

  • Stand in front of the mirror, look yourself in the eye and say out loud

”I love you”

” I believe in you”

” I trust you”

It might not be as easy as writing it down as I have in this post, trust me, looking at yourself in the mirror is tough when you don’t feel you’re adequate to be loved more so loving yourself. If you’re finding it awkward and strange start by just looking at yourself in the mirror for a minute or two, crack a smile if you can. Try this for a few days and when you start feeling confident repeat the mantra ”I love you”, ”I believe in you”, ”I am beautiful”. Repeat this daily and gradually you will notice a change. Self loving is difficult when your mindset is telling you otherwise, rise above that little niggling voice and believe in your mantra. When you start self loving, your whole being prepares you to overcome the challenges we face in our lives. We learn to realize that a challenge is only a hurdle that we can overcome……….

”Work on being in love with the person in the mirror who has been through so much but is still standing”. – Unknown

Let me know how you get on and thank you for taking the time to read this, until next time………………………

Multhani mitti benefits for hair

Multhani mitti benefits for hair

Taking care of natural afro hair requires a regimen consisting of eating healthy, drinking plenty of water and hydrating your curly mane. Whilst my hair is in a protective style during the cold winter months, I still ensure I continue to moisturize and condition my hair and I have found the multani mitti clay as the best clarifying clay that conditions and cleanses my hair. So let’s delve into finding out what this natural ingredient is.

I first discovered this clay during my ”slippery slope” internet searches when I was searching for a natural conditioning product that can condition my hair without containing parabens and sulphates. I became interested in it as it is one of the aryuvedic products hailing from India. ”Aryuveda” is a holistic maintenance of the mind and body with the use of ”mother earths” natural abundance. This product was a great find for me as I realized its uses would be good for my problem skin and for my hair. It has been used for many centuries in India and here are the benefits of this clay

Multani mitti contains silica, calcium, iron and magnesium these minerals are essential for our body, you can imagine the great benefits these will have on your skin, I will write a post on the skin mask, however today we will focus on the hair mask.  I made the  hair mask using the following ingredients. Silica is essential for the hair structure and texture (hence the conditioning properties), calcium is vital for fuller, thicker hair. With iron  promoting hair growth and magnesium helping with absorption of all these wonderful minerals.

Ingredients

  • 4 tbsp  of multani mitti
  • 1 tsp amino acids
  • 2 tbsp of olive oil
  • Coconut milk – enough to mix until you a get a smooth slightly thick paste

Applying the paste

  • Mix all the ingredients until you have a smooth paste, ensure it is not runny as you will end up with the mixture running down your neck!
  • Apply to freshly cleansed hair, (I use castille soap to wash my hair). Others  use a squeeze bottle, depending how thick your mixture is, but I muck straight in there with my fingers as I then finger comb my hair during application.
  • Wear a shower cap, or cling film your head, wrap cling film round until all your hair is under the wrap. I found this the best method as it traps the heat. Leave it for a minimum of 30 mins, I left mine for about 3 hours (why not!!!!)
  • Rinse with luke warm water and ensure all the mixture is washed out of your hair
  • Style as desired, after rinsing, my hair felt so soft and my curl pattern was defined.

I try my best to have this treatment fortnightly, give this a try and I look forward to your comments!

Until next time………………………..

 

 

Forgiving your ex after a break up – relationship tips

Forgiving your ex after a break up – relationship tips

Relationships are as complex as trying to figure out what happens when our souls depart this earth, however as human beings we yearn to love and be loved, sharing memories and wonderful experiences.

You often hear people exclaim that ”Love hurts”, I disagree, Love does not hurt, it is pure and peaceful, we use the term ”love” synonymous  to ”relationship”. Usually when a relationship turns sour, a lot of emotions run rampant and couples suffer and respond to this differently. My question is, ”how do you recover from a break up with some or all of your senses still intact?”, lets be honest there are things some people have done to their exes to express their hurt, some quite funny, others not so good. I’ve heard of a guy who decided to take all his girlfriend’s earrings backs just to annoy her and that was after a break up. That i think is hilarious however some have scratched their exes cars because they found out they’d cheated. It might make you feel good albeit for a short time but when the short lived satisfaction is over the hurt is still there. That’s the same as drinking to drown your sorrows, that is a temporary relief but when you wake up tomorrow the pain and emotions around that issue are still there, together with a banging headache.

We need to focus on how we can recover from the breakup ensuring we have emotional health and most of our dignity, yes i’ve said it, we need to have dignity. From a personal point of view, I have experienced being the one that ended a relationship and also the one that was left heartbroken and in both instances I found the following steps helped me ride the emotional wave whilst at the same time giving me clarity and hope that there will be light at the end of the tunnel. These steps might not help everyone however there are some who might resonate with this.

  • Forgiveness – forgiving the action and forgiving your ex. I  feel that was a great step personally for me following the break up. A lot of times people focus on the hurt they’re going through and in turn harbour a lot of resentment which creates a negative mindset.
  • Negativity does not help moving on. We attract like for like so you can imagine if you have negative intentions you will attract a lot of negativity towards you. Hence you hear people exclaiming how they seem to attract the same type of person. I have come to discover that after a break up you need to ”detox” yourself of anything to do with the person you’re with.
  • Finding yourself- rediscover who you are as an individual, the best way to move on is to find happiness within yourself. We do not need to find a partner to bring happiness. A partner should be someone you have to share the happiness you already have. Find out what you love doing, a new hobby, go out with friends, socialize with the people that care about you and take steps towards your happiness by being happy on your own.
  • Most importantly, Love yourself, love who you are as a person, flaws and all. If you cannot love yourself, how do you expect to love someone else? How do you expect to share any love and be loved too.

When you feel complete within yourself, only then are you able to attract the right person in your life. Life is a lesson in itself so accepting that someone can come into your life for a season to teach some life lessons is a great way to overcome resentment and hate. You will always look back and accept once you have identified what they came to do in your life.

Do you have any steps you’ve taken to overcome a relationship break up? If so what was it? Were they healthy steps? Or are there steps you might want to review and change?

Until next time…………………………..

 

 

3 Ways of enhancing your quality time without gadgets!!!

3 Ways of enhancing your quality time without gadgets!!!

Most of us reading this know the importance of managing time when you are a parent. However it is not as easy as it sounds. There are so many factors that we face whilst at the same time ensuring you have ample quality time with the family.

The guilt I have faced when conversing with my two children whilst cooking dinner, making a mental note of what to pack in their lunchboxes and then trying to remember the conversation I had to then find out, you were in ”autopilot mode” and you didn’t actually hear what they were saying. We miss out on finding out what our children have been doing at school and their day to day antics due to digital noise.

We are all too consumed by technology, so much that it has taken us away from communicating face to face. Access to the outside world is at our fingertips and we have a voyeuristic behaviors, checking what is happening to someone on social media instead of taking time to find out how the person next to you is feeling. I am guilty of this and have had to exercise a few rules in order to spend some quality time with the children. I’m sure you can follow these and amend them accordingly if you don’t have children as the main action is to switch off from technology!

  • Switching off phones from 7pm till bedtime. When the phone/iPad/laptop is switched off, there is not temptation to watch that cute cat dancing or the 3 second clip of a hilarious moment captured by someone on vine.
  • Silent or interactive reading – the whole family sits down to read a book individually or together. This serves two purposes, firstly it encourages habitual reading and spending time together. Expands the mind and encourages imagination which in turn leads to creativity.
  • Wednesday board session – every Wednesday we try and play a board game before bedtime. I do get the competitive bug and it is half the fun, it is interactive, fun and great way communicating and staving the need to reach for a gadget.

I’ve tried the above exercises in the last 3 weeks so far some have worked, the reading definitely worked. Board sessions haven’t worked so far due to chaperoning kids to some activities in the evening. What do you do to cut off from the buzzing outside world? Are you facing these challenges that we cannot escape the voyeurism fed by human curiosity instinct? Do you have the ability to escape the digital noise? How do you silence the noise and find time to reflect and rest? I will find more activities to add to my list as I’m sure there are plenty that work for other people. Until next time…

 

Natural coconut milk cleanser for clear skin

Natural coconut milk cleanser for clear skin

So for the last few weeks I have embarked on a more ethical, spiritual skin cleansing routine, as I am trying to cleanse myself from within. The main reason is to get rid of the scarring and the cystic acne I have been suffering with for the last 4 years. I have

  • Coconut is renowned for its nourishing nutrients it is rich in
  • fibre
  • vitamin C C, E, B1, B3, B5 and B6,
  • minerals like iron, selenium, sodium, calcium, magnesium and phosphorous  and natural fatty acids glorious for our skin.

As the skin is our biggest organ, it’s essential we take good care of it. So I decided to utilise this wonderful fruit by making a coconut oil cleanser. I am looking for an ingredient that will plump my skin whilst providing the nourishing hydrating ingredients.  I am a firm believer that what we put in our body should work well on our skin! Below are the ingredients I used to make my cleanser

  • 200mls coconut milk (the other half went into a thai curry, yum). Coconut milk is rich in vitamin C, copper. Helping maintain elasticity and suppleness.
  • 3 Tablespoons honey – honey is renowned for it’s anti inflammatory properties and nutrients, aiding the healing process. Rich in antioxidants beneficial to skin renewal and also gives the skin a healthy glow
  • 1 tablespoon castille soap (natural chemical free soap from the oils) – castille soap is a gentle soap that is made from vegetable oils. It does not contain any chemicals and is suitable for vegans. It has antibacterial properties which promote skin healing, it is gentle on skin and can be used with people suffering from eczema.

Mix all 3 ingredients in a bottle and hey presto, your chemical free facial cleanser!  Use daily and store in the fridge so your coconut milk does not go rancid. For those with oily skin, adding a bit of bicarbonate of soda during your wash routine will gently exfoliate the dead cells and give you a beautiful radiant complexion.

I use this twice daily and my skin feels soft and smooth, i will continue using it so I can track the improvement of my skin.

I will update this post with results in the next few weeks, until next time…………………..

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